Contributed by Terry Real
The Myth of the Individual
Tapping into the Relational BrainCurrent research indicates that we’re not walled-in, freestanding individuals. Our human brains—in fact, most mammals’ brains—are built for... Read more
Getting Past You and Me
Cultivating the “Us” in Intimate RelationshipTerry Real is on a mission: leading couples into increased intimacy by moving them beyond a culture of individualism. Read more
Reflections on Rich
Friends Celebrate His Life and LegacySharing how Rich Simon impacted our lives—and the field as a whole. Read more
VIDEO: The Found and the Lost
A TransformationOf all the meaningful sessions that take place in a therapist’s office, certain ones stand out. In this Symposium storytelling highlight, couples therapist... Read more
Working with Difficult Men
Where’s the Leverage for Change?The conflict between an older, more traditional view of masculinity and a newer, more progressive one is the underlying issue in many marriages today. Helping... Read more
The Long Shadow of Patriarchy
Couples Therapy in the Age of TrumpThe election of Donald Trump and the resurgence of populism throughout the West were fueled by a renewed pull toward certain notions of traditional... Read more
Rowing to Nowhere
When is Enough Enough?A therapist shares how to walk with a client couple through to their divorce and then let them go. Read more
Should You Have Leverage Over Your Clients?
Terry Real on Why Male Grandiosity Necessitates LeverageTerry talks about grandiosity and the destructive behaviors it leads to, thus making leverage a part of the therapeutic process. Read more
Motivating the Resistant Male Client
Terry Real On Why Leverage Is Key With MenYou’ve probably worked with men who’ve been dragged, kicking and screaming, into therapy by their partners. But how do you work with a client who doesn’t... Read more
Joining Through The Truth
Coaching and Our AssumptionsA new breed of therapist believes that it’s disrespectful not to say to clients displaying obnoxious, selfish, or self-defeating behaviors what... Read more
A Matter Of Choice
Deciding: to be Right or be Married?Do you want to be right or be married? Okay, now pause, think, breathe . . . and choose between First Consciousness and Second Consciousness. Read more
The Awful Truth
Most Men Are Just Not Raised to be IntimateAfter the publication of my book, 'I Don't Want to Talk about It,' I started getting calls from people around the United States who wanted help. Naming the... Read more
Terry Real
Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized couples therapist, speaker, author, and founder of the Relational Life Institute (RLI). His latest bestseller is Us: How to Get Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. He’s also the author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner), the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, and The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work.