Contributed by Esther Perel

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Reflections on Rich

Friends Celebrate His Life and Legacy

Sharing how Rich Simon impacted our lives—and the field as a whole. Read more

Esther Perel on Adapting to Uncertainty

And How Relationships Are Changing in a Pandemic

There’s a profound change occurring in our relationship to space. In working remotely, it feels at times like we’re doing home visits. In video calls, we... Read more

Symposium Highlight September 16, 2020

VIDEO: Love in Lockdown

Esther Perel Shares the Trends She's Been Seeing with Her Clients

Couples therapist and bestselling author Esther Perel explains how life in quarantine is changing the dynamics of romantic relationships, and what this means... Read more

Symposium Highlight May 27, 2020

Partners in quarantine are facing distinct challenges, says couples therapist and bestselling author Esther Perel. Here, she breaks down the patterns she's... Read more

Symposium Highlight May 6, 2020

VIDEO: Esther Perel on Our Shared Trauma

Navigating the "Parallel Process" Covid-19 Has Created

In the midst of covid-19, therapists and clients are sharing many of the same anxieties. As a therapist, how do you talk about it? In this clip from her 2020... Read more

Couples Under Quarantine

Business as Usual?

Differences in how couples handle this situation can be a real bone of contention, but sometimes using humor, especially dark humor, gives us some sense of... Read more

Symposium Highlight October 23, 2019

Our relational lives are undergoing a radical shift, says couples therapist Esther Perel, bestselling author of The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity... Read more

VIDEO: Esther Perel on Speaking About Sex

Getting Comfortable in Couples Therapy

Many traditional approaches to couples therapy are built on the assumption that if you help a couple clear up the emotional issues in their relationship, sex... Read more

Symposium Highlight February 13, 2019

VIDEO: Esther Perel on the Legacy of Salvador Minuchin

From the Symposium's Celebration of a Family Therapy Visionary

A maverick and a visionary in the ’60s and ’70s, Salvador Minuchin put forth a brand new model of psychotherapy—family therapy. In the following video... Read more

VIDEO: Esther Perel on How to Talk with Men About Intimacy

Framing Intimacy as a Regular Part of Life

It's not always easy to get men to talk about intimacy and sex. But according to renowned sex therapist and author Esther Perel, there's a way to weave... Read more

Symposium Highlight November 14, 2018

Couples therapist Esther Perel has been recognized as one of the world’s most original and insightful thinkers about couples, sexuality, and the peculiar... Read more

Esther Perel on the Paradox of Masculinity

What Does It Mean to Be a “Real” Man Today?

Feminism has given women a new narrative, but it hasn’t offered men a particularly new one that they can identify with. Ultimately, the lives of women will... Read more

Symposium Highlight May 9, 2018

Our Myths about Sexuality

Highlights from Symposium 2018

Esther Perel called on the Symposium audience to challenge the various myths, especially those about male sexuality, that get in the way of deeper relational... Read more

Turns in the Road

Highlights from the Networker Journey

Out of all the hundreds and hundreds of articles that have appeared in the Networker over the past four decades, we’ve chosen a small sampling that captures... Read more

The Mystery of Eroticism

Rethinking Conventional Wisdom

It’s long been the conventional wisdom among couples therapists that if couples fix the emotional issues in their relationship, their sexual lives will... Read more

What’s the true nature of your feelings for your lover? An honest answer to that question is what a therapist needs in order to help a couple decide how to... Read more

Cultivating Erotic Intelligence in Couples Therapy

Reconciling Sensuality and Domesticity

America, in matters of sex as in much else, seems to be a goal-oriented society that prefers explicit meanings, candor, and "plain speech" to ambiguity and... Read more

How To Talk About Sex With Men

Esther Perel Shows How Easy It Can Be

Esther Perel introduces the subject of a man’s sexuality, sexual practice, his approach to sex, and its place in his life in an effortless, organic way. Read more

After the Storm

The Affair In Retrospect

As therapists, we have an unquenchable desire to find happy ending for troubled clients, especially those weathering the crisis of infidelity. But what happens... Read more

When Three Threatens Two

Must Parenthood Bring Down the Curtain on Romance?

Esther Perel explains why new parents need to prioritize their sex lives instead of leaving at the bottom of the to-do list. Read more

When Three Threatens Two

Must Parenthood Bring Down the Curtain on Romance?

It takes time—measured in years, not weeks,—for couples to find their bearings again after the birth of a child, and many never do. Read more

Erotic Intelligence

Reconciling Sensuality and Domesticity

Many therapists fail to recognize that sexual desire doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. By counseling political correctness in the bedroom... Read more

Esther Perel

Longtime contributor and speaker at the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium, Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, is recognized as one of the most insightful and provocative voices on personal and professional relationships and the complex science behind human interaction. She is the best-selling author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (translated into 25 languages) and producer of the online training continuation, Rekindling Desire. Fluent in nine languages, the Belgian native is a practicing psychotherapist, celebrated speaker and organization consultant to Fortune 500 companies. The New York Times, in a cover story, named her the most important game changer on sexuality and relationships since Dr. Ruth. Her critically acclaimed viral TED Talks have collectively reached over 14 million viewers. For more information about her educational programs and resources, please visit