Taking Off The Gloves

David Schnarch On How Confrontation Speeds Up Couples Therapy

Couples therapist, David Schnarch, is not interested in having a couple feel secure in the consulting room.

In fact, David asserts that therapy is the one place where partners should be able to be uncomfortably honest, and take responsibility for their problematic behavior and actions. The couples therapist’s role is to challenge them to do just that.

David is more than willing to break away from therapeutic convention when he believes it’s necessary. His style embraces confrontation, uncomfortable honesty, and accountability in a way that challenges the very foundations of more attachment-based approaches.

Click on the video to hear David explain how his up-front style, rather than scaring clients off, actually gives them hope and draws out the best in them.



Rich Simon

Richard Simon, PhD, founded Psychotherapy Networker and served as the editor for more than 40 years. He received every major magazine industry honor, including the National Magazine Award. Rich passed away November 2020, and we honor his memory and contributions to the field every day. 

David Schnarch

David Schnarch, PhD, director of the Crucible Institute, is the author of Intimacy & Desire, Passionate Marriage, and Constructing the Sexual Crucible.